Where do you find friends?


Reader,

I've been thinking a lot about community this season, mostly because of my amazing 4-month-old daughter (who is seriously the happiest baby in the world). I've been deeply considering my responsibility to nestle her inside a community (or several!) and what, in today's fragmented world, that curation process looks like. The world will throw its ick at her in due time; it's much more manageable with the love of a strong community at your back.

This newsletter is a 2-fer on community: one new, one tracing roots back hundreds of years.

Building a new community

John Avilla is a bassist and retired marketing executive. He's reached the point in his life where he's had a career, made his money, raised his family, and wants to play music... without going full circle back to garages and basements.

So, John built a club. Like a country club, but for musicians.  John describes it this way:

It'd be like walking into, I hope, the lobby of like a five star hotel. Everybody knows your name. We know why you're here. We know what you like. You immediately see other people that you know and have built relationships with. And you have a little time, most likely before you step into the studio, to step up to the bar. We have snacks and evenings we'll have treats and somebody behind the bar pouring you something.

I think in certain circles there's kind of a pride and a romanticism in the grunge aspect of playing certain kinds of music. Garage bands are basically an entire genre in themselves.

But eventually (I would say hopefully?) yeah, some of us do end up raising our standards as we get older.

Maybe we don't need to couch surf anymore and can get a hotel with a real bed. A moment for me was being able to go to the grocery store and just buy food without that tally running through my head of how much each item is adding to my bill.

If I knew there was a place I could walk in the door and have this immediate shared interest with everyone in there, play music with them, talk shop, or even just drink a beer and shoot the breeze, not gonna lie... That sounds appealing.

Generations of community

On the other end of the spectrum, we have groups like the Bay Osos Folk Dancers.

" I call what we do traditional recreational folk dance," says Billy Burke, the leader of the group. "Traditional means that dances represent a people, place, or time. Recreational means the basis of dance is social, so it precludes ceremonial dance."

Folk dances have been done around the world for hundreds of years (if not longer!) This group of people gathers each week to move together to music from Romania to Argentina. Their home is a local community center and their circle is small (literally), but the sense of community that radiated from these folks was phenomenal.

This podcast episode was a little different in that I interviewed the entire group of dancers. Each one spoke about the community they had found in folk dance. One dancer, Ann, summed up her nearly 50 years of dancing:

 The music is something that attracts me, has from the very beginning, and of course the friendships... and that'll make me cry. It's been a wonderful time.

Zeitgeist Radio exists to explore musical communities. What makes people love each one? How do they find support, understanding, friendship, intellectual engagement?

I appreciate all shares of this podcast - it really keeps me going.

In song,

~Morgan

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